Prince or frog?

"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up: if a boy punches you he likes you, never try to trim your own bangs, and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. every movie we see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it: the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. but sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. and maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. maybe the happy ending is just moving on. or maybe the happy ending is this: knowing after all the unreturned phone calls and broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment... you never gave up hope. "

Came across this quote on a friends facebook page, its from the movie He's Just Not That Into You, and thought "how true!!" If you look around at all the teen pregnancies, and broken marriages I bet you will find that it was because of disillusionment! As a girl, I can honestly say that we girls can get disillusioned very easily. We find someone that we think is interested in us and suddenly all their faults and all the little signs that this is NOT "the" one suddenly disappear. Then when its all over we're left wondering what happened, why didn't I see this coming. Now I'm not saying that we need to be cynics, absolutely not!!! Girls, you need to have dreams and get enchanted, but don't get so enchanted that you forget what is important. Does this man love God, does he love you? Are you number one on his list of priorities? Does he have his life in order? Is he capable of supporting you and taking care of you? Is he responsible? Is he respected by his peers? These are just a few things to consider. Because if he isn't it's more than liking that's not going to change and you shouldn't wait around hoping it will. I have the tendency to look past a person's faults and see what they could be, but that doesn't mean that is what they are. Just because someone has the potential to be a good person doesn't mean that they will be. I recently was in a relationship like this. I stayed longer than I should have because I saw what they could be and hoped that I would be the one to make them want to be that better person. But that's not how it goes. The lyrics from the Superchic[k] song Princes and Frogs says, "Look into his eyes are you a princess or a fly?" Does this person see you as something valuable, unique, and important or are you just another girl on their list? Does he value you because of your looks or because of your personality? Girls, don't sell yourself short!! Don't fool yourself into thinking that this "frog" you're with is the best you can do! You don't have to settle!!!! You are an amazing and beautiful girl and someday you will meet someone who sees that and is willing to make sacrifices for you and treat you like you are special. Don't give up hope and most importantly don't give up on yourself! Some frogs will still be frogs and some dogs will still be dogs, but some boys will one day be men. The question is are you willing to wait for the man or will you settle for a frog?

"You found him is what you say And we all want you to feel that way But the frog you've got seems cute enough to kiss And maybe frogs seem like that's all their is But just because you haven't found your prince yet Doesn't mean you're still not a princess And what if if your prince comes riding in While you're kissin' a frog what's he gonna think then So look into his eyes Are you a princess or a fly?
All princes start as frogs and all gentlemen as dogs Just wait till its plain to see What we're growing up to be Cause Some frogs will still be frogs And Some dogs will still be dogs Some boys could become men Just don't kiss us 'til then. " (Princes and Frogs by Superchick)